I want to share a word of encouragement to give you hope. As fairly new Christians, my husband and I were going to a home group, as well as attending the church. We had decided to do a forty-day Daniel fast with group. I hadn't done much fasting before so I wasn't sure if I could do it or not, but decided to give it a try. We were to eat mainly fruits, vegetables, and nuts. I wondered how I was going to survive without coffee and decided that since it came from a bean, it was fine for me to have. We were asked to come with a request for what we would pray for during this fast. Some people from our group wanted more from God, healing, and financial breakthrough but my prayer was to restore my husband and son’s relationship.
You see, two and a half years before, our son, Mike, was in his teens. His world consisted of hockey, which he loved to play, and was good at. He also was into drinking and partying. One weekend, he got into trouble drinking and driving and put our car in the ditch. He was very lucky that he didn't die as a steel pole went through the back seat and just missed the gas tank. Unfortunately, this was not the first time this happened. We had grounded him previously, but it hadn’t stopped this behaviour.
This time my husband said, “No more! This is your punishment - you are not going to play hockey for the rest of the season.” It was almost time for the playoffs, but my husband took our son’s hockey equipment and hid it. He told him, “If you don't like our rules, there’s the door.” Our son chose the door! He packed up his backpack and went to his friend's house.
Ephesians 6:4 (NLT) says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” We wondered if we had just provoked our son to anger. Mike would come for holidays and birthdays, but he and my husband never really spoke other than small talk. My heart was so broken. I stood by my husband but yearned to have our family back together. I didn't know what to do. I tried to reason with them both, I would pray but then get frustrated that nothing seemed to be happening. Honestly, it was hard to pray through that season because I was feeling very hurt and broken over it. This was the situation I was going to give to God as I fasted with our small group and during it my heart changed. I didn't rely on myself anymore but put my trust in God.
I do know that God has called us to pray when we are troubled, He wants us to turn to Him with our needs and hurts. The Bible teaches a lot about prayer, Queen Esther is one who called on the Jewish people to pray and fast with her for a breakthrough. God hears our every plea and petition. He brings hope to hopeless situations. When we pray, the impossible becomes possible, and darkness becomes light. Breakthrough happens, and healing takes place.
Three months after our fast, God had answered my prayer. He not only restored my husband and son's relationship, but our son dedicated his life to the Lord. As the years have passed, the Lord has used Mike to become a youth and young adults’ leader. God's ways and plans are so much bigger than ours. Through prayer everything can change and it’s all for His Glory!